In a way, it is a double-edged sword. Without fulfil, there is no fulfilment. Without fulfilment, there is no self. Neither of these are true, but both are the same. To be fulfilled is to be complete—to be in the center of your being, to have all the parts of yourself. To be fulfilled is to be able to do what you want, when you want, and where you want, in all the ways you choose.
The problem with fulfilment is that it can be a trap. If you’re not careful, fulfilment can feel like a burden, a restriction, a limitation. Like you can’t go out and have fun, you can’t go out and build a bigger house, you can’t go out and get more education, or be a better parent. One of the things that’s really great about fulfilment is that it’s an illusion.
The problem with fulfilment is that when you can never fulfil your desires, you feel stuck. It can seem like there’s no way to be fulfilled. But that’s not necessarily true. There are all sorts of ways to fulfil your desires. You can go to a spa, or a gym, or get a massage. You can write your first novel, or get your first tattoo. All of these things can give you the fulfilment of your desires.
So, if you want to be a better parent, the way you can fulfil your desires is by giving your kids the best possible start. And by far the best start is by raising them from the bottom up. This is the foundation of the modern parenting paradigm. So, if you want your kids to be fulfilled, you want to be a better parent.
The problem, of course, is that the desire of a parent to fulfil their child’s desires is the exact opposite of what fulfillment is. I like to think of these two terms as two different sides of the same coin. To fulfil, we have to fulfill our children’s desires, and that’s really hard to do. To fulfil our desires, we have to fulfil our parents desires. But to fulfil your child’s desires, you have to fulfil yourself.
I hate to break it to you, but fulfillment is an oxymoron. Our desires are something we have to earn, not something we have to be given. To fulfil a desire, you have to find a desire in someone else.
In the case of fulfilment, we are our own definition of what fulfilling means. A desire, like love or happiness, can be fulfilled simply by being fulfilled by someone else. A desire can also be fulfilled by not fulfilling it ourselves because if we do we will never fulfill it. Whereas fulfillment is something we have to find, we can also find fulfillment by finding someone else that we can’t fulfill ourselves with.
You can either be fulfilled, or have to find someone else to fulfill it. A person who has fulfilled is a person who has fulfilled.
If you want to have a fulfilling life, you will have to find someone somewhere else. The goal in life is to find someone who can fulfill a fulfilling life. If you want to have a fulfilled life, you will have to find someone else to fulfill that life. There are four ways to find fulfillment.
You can find a person by simply asking for it. If you don’t know what you want, you can ask a person to show you what they can do for you. If you don’t know what you want, you can ask a person to tell you what it has to do with you. You can ask a person to tell you that you are supposed to have it. You can ask a person to show you that they will help you fulfill your goals.