It is a little hard to understand. I guess it is because negative scenarios create an automatic defensive reaction that I am not capable of handling.
Negative scenarios are the default way we respond to any kind of threat. We take action out of fear, anger, or just to prove we have the upper-hand in a conflict.
For example, let’s say my boyfriend has a tendency to take the blame when I make a negative event happen. So I have a tendency to feel like I am always wrong. I have a tendency to feel like I can never be right to anyone else. Because of this, I tend to avoid a lot of situations (good and bad) that I feel are “the negative”.
The real reason for this is our tendency to get angry, get upset when we make a situation better, or just to get upset when we make a situation worse.
As far as negative scenarios go, they are mostly for me. I think it’s because I feel like I need to explain myself, show people I’m right. And people tend to look at things in a way that explains why they are.
So here’s a scenario for you. What if you see this kid in your school, and you have a crush on him? How do you feel about that? I mean, it’s a lot to ask for, but I think what we all need to do is take a real good hard look at ourselves. If we really don’t like the things we do, then don’t do them. But once we go to the extreme of not being able to do something, then we do it.
We created this scenario to help explain and explain to you why if you do see him in your school, you shouldnt do anything with your crush. We thought it was a good example of someone who wasnt doing anything.
I have a very difficult time saying no to a crush. I’m sure that you’re probably thinking of this as you are reading this. But it’s probably not that you need to be a certain kind of person to be attracted to someone. I think it’s more that you need to be someone who has a genuine interest in you. And for this to work, you need to have a desire to be around, something that is genuine and genuine.
A person can never have a genuine interest in you if they don’t want you to know it. And I think it comes down to this. If someone has a genuine interest in you, they will want you to know it and want to know you about it. They will want you to know about things that are difficult to explain. They will want you to have the courage to tell them.
People who are interested in you understand that you are the only person whom they really care about, and to them that’s enough. If you are not interested in them, you will never be interested in them.